In The Mood for Love – Romantic Mood Tips
Job stress, family responsibilities and caring for the kids… and then people wonder why love goes out of the window. But don’t take it as a given situation. A little effort and you can have a romantic interlude in the middle of this mayhem. Getting in the mood for love isn’t all that difficult, just try these steps…
There is just no time for love. Either you are working relentlessly or the baby-sitter plays hookey again. And when you do get some extra time, the will is lacking. You both agree that the way to fix this is to go somewhere scenic, but if all is booked and time too precious, get it going at home only. Here are a few handy pointers:
- Cholestrol clogs the arteries, including the ones in your p****s. When you’re aroused, your p****s can hold up to ten times as much blood as normal. Help keep these passages clear of detritus by eating plenty of oats and oat bran.
- The prostate gland plays a pivotal role in sex.If you’re prone to its inflammation, eat rye bread and other whole grains and seeds. A handful of dried pumpkin seeds each day can also help.
- B complex is the catchall phrase for three vitamins, thiamin, riboflavin and niacin. The first two help your body produce energy when you need it. Niacin
helps your blood vessels dilate, allowing your heart to rev up and go for broke when it needs to. It also helps your body produce testosterone.
- It’s a good idea to pop vitamin supplements each day,but it maybe useless if not supplemented by zinc. It’s easy to obtain, but it goes as fast as it comes. Oysters may not be your idea of keeping the sex fires burning so stick to innocuous little zinc tablets.
- All your muscles, including the one inside your tongue and the one that controls your orgasms, need calcium. Yogurt, dairy products, dark green veggies, breads and fish, especially tinned sardines, have plenty of calcium.
- If none of this works, try a placebo. It can be snake oil, Tahitian mountain tuber,whatever…as long as it helps you keep your end up. Or maybe just forget the stress and hire a babysitter.
- Not everyone believes that Feng Shui works, but those who do swear by it. And if your love life is on a downward graph, this can absolutely help.
- Find out which direction your bedroom faces. You’ll be dealing with the southwest corner.
- Feng Shui is the Chinese philosophy of based on the harnessing of natural forces to promote well being,prosperity and harmony.
- Each direction relates to a specific area of your life.For the south-west corner,use an aromatherapy heater to warm some vanilla oil in the southwest corner of your room to enhance an impending or existing physical relationship.
- Remove any mirrors from the bedroom, as they increase the likelihood of infidelity.If you must have a mirror in the room, ensure that it doesn’t reflect the bed.
- Avoid having television sets, computer monitors or exercise equipment in the room. The first two exude negative yang energy. The latter detracts from the purpose of the room – pleasure and dreaming.
- A set of fairy lights will stimulate feelings of affection and positive energy.
- Paint your bedroom in shades of yellow, the colour associated with partnerships. To ensure happiness and good communication in the relationship, place two pink candles in glass holders on either side of the bed.
- To ensure a proper flow of passion, place a beaded curtain across the bedroom door it’ll encourage energy and deflect infidelity.
- Make sure that the bed doesn’t face the bedroom door. This can affect your partners health. Your bed should also have a solid headboard.
- The head of the bed should face north and shouldn’t be under a window. It should also be in the area furthest from the door. Your feet shouldn’t face the door, as your energy will flow out through the doorway.
- If you have artwork in the room it should be peaceful and serene. Even if you’re a Goya connoisseur,avoid having it in the bedroom.
- Even if you don’t buy the idea of feng shui, having an uncluttered, sweetsmelling, candlelit bedroom can’t do any harm.
Aroma therapists make use of essential oils that are extracted from various parts of a plant. Essential oils are the aromatic life source of a plant. When extracted, they and are very concentrated, so much so, that they must only be used in their diluted form and, even then, in very small quantities. Essential oils are either absorbed into the skin or inhaled, but they are never to be taken internally. Here’s how you can use them:
Bath: Follow the instructions on the bottle, but generally blend no more than 10 drops of essential oil to about 20ml of vegetable oil or neutral foam and add to running bath water.
- Body lotion: Add five drops of essential oil to 10ml of a neutral, unscented body lotion.
- Facial moisturiser: Add two drops of essential oil into 4ml of neutral, unscented lotion.
- Massage oil: Blend 10-12 drops of essential oil to 30ml of carrier massage oil.
- Oil burner: To scent a room, mix three or four drops of essential oils with a little water in the dish. Then light the tea candle underneath. An oil burner is also known as a ‘vapouriser’.
- Air-freshener: Add two drops of essential oil to 150ml warm water in a clean spray bottle. At the same time,you have to be very careful with how to use the oils.Here are some dos and don’ts…
- Store all essential oils in dark glass bottles and keep them out of direct, because they are damaged by heat, light and humidity.
- Essential oils should not be taken internally, they are only for external use.
- Always blend essential oils with a carrier oil or a neutral, unscented lotion before applying to the skin.
- Don’t let essential oil get into your eyes.
- Certain essential oils may also irritate sensitive skins. If irritation occurs, stop using the oil immediately.
- Essential oils are flammable and should therefore not be used near naked flame.
- Pregnant women should not use essential oils, without first consulting a doctor.
- Aromatherapy massage should not be performed on people who are ill or who have torn muscles or broken bones.
Although aphrodisiac are based more on cultural myths than fact, their allure continues to this day, as people still experiment with them to pep up their sex lives. Named after Aphrodite, the Greek goddess of love, beauty, and fertility, aphrodisiac are substances that supposedly elicit sexual desire and arousal.
The first among equals is Spanish Fly. Made from ground-up beetles of the Lytta vesicatoria species. Its active ingredient, cantharidin, irritates the bladder and urethra, causing increased blood flow to the genitals and sensations of warmth there, but can permanently scar urethral tissue and infect the genitourinary tract. It may lead to an abnormally prolonged or constant erection or an engorged vulva and vagina, both of which are often painful.
Oysters and clams. Other seafood resembling sex organs are also often thought to be aphrodisiac.
Ground rhinoceros horn. The term ‘horny’ was apparently coined from this.
Bananas, celery, asparagus. Also other phallic foods.
Honey as it reminds of vaginal fluid.
Ginseng, chocolate, strawberries and champagne.
Chillies, curries, and other spices and spicy foods. They make the heart beat faster and produce perspiration, which commonly occur during sex.
But before you go out looking for them, remember no scientific study has proved them to be effective at meeting their claims. In fact, as in the case of Spanish Fly, some can be harmful and even potentially dangerous. It’s also important to remember that, because aphrodisiac, similar to other herbal supplements, are not regulated, it can be hard to know exactly what you’re getting when you pick hem up.
Sometimes drugs are used as aphrodisiac. Alcohol, marijuana, cocaine, amphetamines, and barbiturates, for example, help reduce or remove inhibitions and/or produce pleasurable feelings and sensations that could lead one to feel sexually aroused. However, instead of this intended outcome, decreased or no sexual response and functioning could occur, often when taking moderate or larger amounts, or from long-term usage. Dependency and other more serious harms can also result. In addition, people’s judgment is often impaired, leaving them more vulnerable to sexual assault, as the recipient or perpetrator.
Regardless of whether or not aphrodisiac work, the power of suggestion, psychologically and emotionally, is key. If one believes using any particular substance, alleged aphrodisiac or not, will help enhance his or her sex life, and s/he is receptive to that longing, then it can help bring about sexual desire and arousal, at least in the short-term. Of course, a good night’s sleep, time, privacy, confidence in your contraception, self-confidence, and a turned-on partner may do the same thing.
The sexual don’ts
- Smoking’s bad for you in every way. The good news is that the body begins recovering from it as soon as you stop.
- Oysters, long regarded as an aphrodisiac, may contain high levels of mercury and are best avoided.
- Many people maintain that sex with marijuana is the best sex ever. But get it right, dope’s just a bad idea.
- Easy on the tight pants, hot-water bottles and electric blankets. Heat is bad for the sperm.