What made you dump your boyfriend? You were dating the guy and getting pretty fond of him. He treated you well and everything seemed fine. Then, one day you something about him was grating on your nerves. So, all of a sudden, you dumped your boyfriend. You told him the relationship was finished. You didn’t even give him a reason for ending it.
Now you want your boyfriend back. There are tactics you can use to get your ex boyfriend back. But, before you do anything, you need to think about why you have changed your mind. Don’t call your ex boyfriend or text him. Your guy will be feeling hurt and unhappy. If you didn’t tell him why you dumped him, he will undoubtedly be feeling confused. Don’t add to his confusion by contacting him within days of telling him you were finished with him.
Before you do anything else, you need to make sure you know the exact reason why you dumped your boyfriend. Maybe the way he giggled got on your nerves. Did he have a catchphrase that made you want to scream after you had heard it a million times? Did you grow to hate his hair? Was it something deeper? Did he show disrespect for women? Did you disagree about religion or politics? Maybe you just didn’t share the same sense of humour.
Maybe it was only a small thing that seemed important enough to cause you to dump your boyfriend. Before you try to get your ex boyfriend back, you need to examine how you really feel about him deep down. Human beings are not perfect and there are things about some people that cannot be altered. You need to make sure you can learn to love your ex boyfriend’s faults, or at least ignore them.
When you have sorted out your feelings, it is time to try to make contact with your ex boyfriend. You might find that he refuses to have anything to do with you. Don’t be surprised if this happens. It is quite a natural reaction. Imagine how you would feel. You were happily dating somebody when, totally out of the blue, he dumped you. Then started calling you. Wouldn’t you be feeling hurt and confused?
If you have tried phoning him and he has failed to answer, let him have some peace. It could be that he is so hurt he wants nothing more to do with you. It could be that he needs a breathing space to heal from the emotional pain.
The only sensible thing for you to do is to back off and give your ex boyfriend some space. Your ex boyfriend might need time to get over the shock of you dumping him so suddenly. If so, you have to respect his feelings and allow him the time he needs. Getting back with your ex boyfriend is not something that you should try to rush.
Some women test their men by telling them they want to break up. They want to see their boyfriends’ reaction. Of course, the reaction they hope for is that the boyfriends will chase after them. They want proof that their boyfriends care enough to fight to keep them. If there is any hint of this sort of manipulation in your decision to dump your boyfriend, you only have yourself to blame if you have lost him for good.
If your ex boyfriend decided to keep his dignity rather than beg you to stay with him, you are going to have your work cut out to get him to even consider getting back with you. If you know deep down that you were playing this type of callous game, you should think about what made you need to act in that way. This sort of behaviour often stems from low self esteem. If your self esteem is so poor that you feel you have to test your boyfriend’s sincerity, you should work at improving your feelings of self-worth.
If you are sure that dumping your boyfriend was not done to test his feelings, you should think more deeply about your feelings for him. Do you truly believe that your only reason for dumping your boyfriend was that something about him got on your nerves? If so, you should think seriously about whether the same thing is going to continue to irritate you if you get your ex boyfriend back.
You need to know whether you inflated a minor irritation out of proportion or whether you reacted to a flaw you can’t live with. Make certain that you can accept your ex boyfriend as he is. Then you can start to try to get him back.
First of all, you must offer a sincere apology for your behaviour. You owe it to your ex boyfriend to tell him why you dumped him. The reason might even sound ridiculous to your own ears now. If it does, admit that too. Tell your ex boyfriend that you completely overreacted. Let him know that you care about him. Tell him that you will never behave in such an unacceptable way in future.
If fortune is smiling on you, your dumped boyfriend might come back and give you the chance to put things right. If you can get back with your ex boyfriend, you must stick to your promise to change your behaviour. One of the best ways to ensure a relationship will last is to talk to each other. Minor irritations can be quickly sorted out when you are communicating well. If you don’t talk about these things, they can just keep on mounting up until they reach a dangerous level.
