Mental foreplay is not just for women but for men as well.
A little mental stimulation can get him excited at the start of the day so that when he sees you later he is revved up and ready to make sweet passionate love. One way to achieve this is by texting your guy sexy messages, but be explicate. Tell him what you want to do to him and what he can do to you, to turn you on. Do not be afraid to add in naughty words, they stimulate different parts of the mind that cause excitement. Plant the seed in his mind the night before by leaving out a sexy nighty or panty and bra on the bed. You can also leave a note on his pillow before he goes to work telling him how much you desire him.
Visual appeal will get a man excited.
The trick is to find out what turns your guy on visually. In a related study by Janssen, Carpenter, and Graham (2003), when men and women were shown erotic films chosen by either a male or female research staff, they reported higher levels of subjective arousal to films chosen by members of the participants’ own sex. Men had higher ratings compared to women for all of the videos, but had their highest ratings for male-chosen films. What this boils down to is that men are visually stimulated but men differ as to what turns them on just as people have different taste in food. Once you find out what visually turns your guy on then let the fun begin.
Take over and let him relax.
Some men have performance anxiety and this can keep him from getting an erection, maintain an erection and even decrease their level of desire. One active area of research concerns cognitive factors that influence sexual arousal. In the mid-1980s, Boston University psychologist David Barlow, PhD, and his colleagues conducted a series of studies to examine the relationship between anxiety and sexual arousal. They found that men with and without sexual problems reacted very differently to anxiety-inducing threats of mild electric shock. Men who reported having no trouble getting and maintaining erections, says Barlow, “would believe that they were going to get shocked if they didn’t get aroused, so they would focus on the erotic scene.” The result was that the threat of shock actually increased sexual arousal. But men who had sexual problems responded to the threat of shock very differently, says Barlow. “Their attention would be so focused on the negative outcomes that they wouldn’t be able to process the erotic cues,” he explains. If your guy has problems in this area then this advice is sure to help, and most men find this a turn on. Take the pressure to perform away and help him to relax and enjoy the moment. Do not focus on his penis or even on intercourse, turn the focus on touching, kissing, licking, playing and stimulating his other senses. The point being is that you are taking over and he is free to sit back and enjoy the ride……..
Create a sexy atmosphere.
Women are not the only ones that enjoy a sexy place to make love in. If the room is cluttered then clean it up, and make it organized. A messy room can be a huge turn off to some men. The focus is supposed to be on the moment, not the mess, kids, work or any other distraction, just the two of you. It does not have to be overdone either just add in a little music, soft lighting, pleasing scent to help him relax and feast on the sexy woman in front of him.
Change the routine and surprise him with something new!
Getting out of the routine can help to stimulate his sex drive. There is truth to reeving up his dopamine levels and increasing his sexual arousal. This can be accomplished in many ways. A few ideas are to dress up in a sexy outfit and take out the cuff, blindfold and whip. This is more about the buildup then actual punishment, it can be light teasing a little spank on the butt, but the act of blindfolding him and restraining him will certainly rev up his dopamine. Another idea is to have sex in a new place, it can be in the car, at a hotel or other places that can rev up his level of curiosity. All in all have fun with him, of course be safe, but keep him guessing as to what is next!
