10 Steps To Sexual Wholeness And Fulfilment

Sacred Sexuality Of Sexual Wholeness For Your Partner

I Recently came across this article by Jalaja Bonheim, Ph.D, a very well known author and someone I admire greatly. I felt that her article on sexual wholeness was one that I might have written myself, it is that good. I hope you will also find it as helpful as I have.


Telling your sexual story is a powerful way of coming out of sexual isolation. Sometimes, it can be a lifesaver. However, this deeply intimate process should always be contained in a sacred space, which might be a therapist’s office or even a trusted friend’s living room. I recommend telling your story in an environment in which it will be received with attention, compassion and reverence, in which you will not be judged or shamed, and in which your confidentiality will be respected.

Like the body, the psyche has its “private parts,” in which we hold our deepest, most intimate secrets, as well as our most vulnerable feelings, memories, hopes and fears. Your story is sacred, and you would no more want to share it with an inappropriate audience that you would want to have sex with inappropriate partners.


Wilhelm Reich was one of the first psychoanalysts to realize how much we fear pleasure. When Joanna, a client, had an orgasm that left her, as she put it, “at the center of the universe, totally at one with everything,” she reacted not with elation but with terror. Often, we associate pleasure with decadence and sin, while viewing pain as virtuous. As one man put it, “In Catholic school, I learned that suffering was good. Jesus suffered, and so did the martyrs. Nobody went to heaven for having a good time.”

Provided our pleasure does not harm ourselves or others, we should consider it healthy, healing, and holy. Sacred sexuality honors pleasure as a gift from God—nature’s way of letting us know what is good for us. So, welcome pleasure into every moment of your life, and embrace it as a teacher and a friend.


Since you are by nature a sexual being allow yourself to explore new ways of expressing your sexuality. Masturbation—self-pleasuring—can be a voyage of self-discovery and an experience of truly making love to yourself. But there are many other ways to turn yourself on as well. Get naked, wrap a shawl around your hips, and do an erotic dance. On a warm summer night, go out and lie in the damp grass, letting your body commune with the earth. A good lover is a priceless gift, but don’t think that without a lover, you can’t be sexual.


If you have a history of choosing inappropriate partners, you can safely assume that in some way you still feel unworthy or undeserving of the love you want. Learn as much as possible about where and why you go astray. Watch for patterns of “making do,” condoning abuse, or settling for relationships that are ultimately destructive and undermining. Sacred sex involves not only physical nakedness but also emotional and spiritual nakedness. Take a good hard look at who you are getting naked with.


Good sex requires honest communication. Don’t expect your partner to read your mind. Unfortunately, fear and shame cause many otherwise articulate men and women to become mute in bed. Alexandra spent ten years in a sexually frustrating marriage before she finally found the courage to ask her husband for what she wanted. “As a good, red-blooded American girl, I was brought up to believe that the man had to give you sexual pleasure, and that if he didn’t give it to you, there was no way to get it.” As it turned out, he was more than happy to oblige her. Yet one wonders how many relationships fail because partners have been taught not to express their desires.


We all know that stress can destroy our health. It also cripples our sexuality. Slowing down—way down—is essential to sacred sexuality. Ecstatic lovemaking occurs only within sacred time, time out of time; it cannot tolerate being crammed into tight schedules. “Quickies” can be wonderful. Still, they are the sexual equivalent of fast food. Give yourself of a gourmet meal now and then.


When sexually aroused, we tend to tense up. We generally want to reach orgasm as quickly as possible, so we concentrate our excitement in the genital area. Often, we unconsciously hold our breath at the same time. Practice doing the opposite. Breathe deeply and relax into increasing levels of sexual arousal, without rushing toward orgasm. If and when orgasm occurs, it will release a healing flood of pleasure throughout your entire body.

  1. BE BRAVE.

Even with the best partner, sacred sex is bound to be somewhat scary. As in any encounter with the divine, you will need to let go of control and surrender to a power greater than your own. Sacred sex is loving sex, and love is not for cowards; it takes courage to plunge into that purifying blaze. Yet the body yearns to reconnect with the eternal source of its being, and grieves when we become so fearful that we refuse the healing medicine of ecstatic pleasure.


Meditate on a divine being who blesses your sexuality and desires you with as much passion as you desire Him or Her. Mystics of all spiritual traditions have invoked God as a lover who led them into states of rapture and orgasmic pleasure. By accepting God as your lover, you invite sacredness into your spiritual experience. On the other hand, opening to the divine lover will also transform your spiritual practice. In the presence of God the lover, worship becomes lovemaking, and lovemaking becomes worship.


Ask yourself, “What is the next step in my sexual life?” It can mean telling your lover about your sexual fantasies, writing erotica, or choosing to be celibate. For one woman, taking the next step meant visiting a local sex shop. “I was scared,” she remembers. “Decent people just don’t do that kind of thing. Then I thought, ‘OK, it’s time for you to admit to the world that you are interested in sex.'” What’s the next step for you?


Five Major Tips For First Time Swingers

First Time Swingers and Sex In A Cruises

If you happen to be new in the community of swingers, then there are a lot of adjustments that you have to make. It is perhaps one of the most fitting lifestyles for the stoic calm type of people and in this piece, you will get to know the certain rules, practices and other relevant information that will prove that to be true. So, let’s get started and familiarize the customs of being a swinger, shall we?

Talk to Your Partners

One of the hardest steps to take for first time swingers is when they have to drop the bombshell with their mates. It is imperative to get affirmation that he or she is comfortable with moving forward or even open to the idea of swinging. Otherwise, there is no sense of pursuing the whole thing at all.

Educate Yourself

There are pros and cons in living a swinger’s life and you also have to know for a fact that there are potential risks that may arise if you do not tread carefully. With that said, you have to be very careful when choosing a person to have sex with (presuming that your partner’s affirmation is already there.) And be careful, it is meant to be taken that there is always a possibility of becoming infected by someone who has AIDS or other sexually transmittable diseases. Oh yeah, do not forget the essence of a condom in play.

Dimming the Lights

Okay, we’re moving on to the action part of becoming a swinger. One of the central points of joining the club is to fill up the gauge for sexual satiety and if you cannot achieve that after so many “encounters,” it’s basically pointless. So, in order to bring your drive to a whole new level, practice one of the finest techniques in seducing people, which happens to be the application of dim lighting or the more traditional way by candle lighting with all other lights off. For one, it creates a gloomy type of delineation for different skin tones that will actually make both parties look more daring and really into the whole scenario. And for starters, it’d be best that you practice with your partner ASAP!

Do Not Get Attached

One of the biggest restrictions in a swinger’s life is to become attached to anyone they encounter. First time swingers may have a problem dealing with this certain rule, but if you’re really up for the guilty pleasure, then you should remove yourself from any emotional equation. And how exactly do you not get attached? We are all susceptible to the whole falling in love thing and it happens even with the person you expect the least to be. And that only happens when you spend a lot of time with that person. So, my point is: After the session, move on to another and never look back. Or maybe look back, but after you have done swinging with a couple others already, because it gets easier to trail away from emotional attachments when you constantly mix everything in a bottle where you don’t get to pick the exact same candy all the time.

Do Not Get Jealous… Ever!

Last but definitely not the least, don’t get jealous. In a swinger’s life, you are prohibited from it and not because it is one of the seven sins, but because you don’t have the right to be. Being a swinger alone is already against the whole biblical reference of sinfulness with the lust part in it alone, in case you haven’t noticed. Right from the beginning, when you have agreed upon the formalities with your partner, you are already declaring the freedom to have “fun” with a partner of another. And therefore, there is the assurance that none of you should be jealous for the fact that you have decided to add more spice into your life by budging in to someone else’s business or letting others get under your pants in their call.

When you get jealous, it’s actually admittance to the profound happiness you are experiencing with the person you have only met in your swinging journey or simply being unfair to your partner, knowing that you can do whatever you want without his or her constant approval. At any rate, you should learn to accustom yourself with the whole “no shades of grey concept,” that everything is black and white. That it can only be good or bad, and that you should only go with it if you are not struggling with the doubt. Either way, it’s a fun and truly spontaneous lifestyle that is really worth the try.


The Most Common Sexual Fetishes

The Most Common Sexual Fetishes

If you’ve always been involved in just normal sexual activities, you may be unaware of the number of sexual fetishes that exist. In fact, you may not have any idea how widely these fetishes are used. Usually, fetishes are something which you execute a lot of times, take delight in observing them or indulge in them with your lover to acquire a heightened state of arousal. A sexual fetish can be a preoccupation in your mind specifically associated with various products like heels, lingeries etc., body parts like navel, feet, hair etc. or sexual positions.

Unless you have perfect communication with your partner, you may be unaware of his or her fetishes. In this post, we’ve discussed some of the most common sexual fetishes. Some of these include role play, domination, submission, real leather, vinyl, shoes, feet, threesome, foursome, swinging and anal intercourse.

Domination and Submission – This is one of the most regularly performed fetishes. Many couples get involved in domination and submission. According to some studies, people who make almost all the decision making in their everyday lives like a role reversal during sex. They want to function as their other half who’s more submissive.

There are many different types of domination and submission. Some of these include whipping, spanking, using BDSM restraints like wrist cuffs and ankle cuffs. Restraints are used to tie one half, while the dominating person takes command. Depending on your preferences and choices, you can also get involved in a lot of other activities. Sexual fetishes are all about what heightens your level of sexual arousal.

Voyeurism – The term voyeurism has been derived from the French word �voir’. It means getting aroused and turned on by seeing other people get undressed or take part in sexual intercourse. Hence, every person who watches porn can be called a voyeur. In a porn, you’re watching strangers getting involved in intercourse and becoming more sexually aroused.

However, it is worth mentioning that voyeurs are not the people who like and view porns. In fact, it has been noted that many individuals even sneak inside of closets to watch other people get involved in sex related practices without those people being aware of it.

Role Play in the Bedroom – Role play is often used by couples to add some spice to their sex life. If you get involved in role play in your bedroom, it means you have to get dressed up in different uniforms to turn on your partner. Most of the time, role play in the bedroom requires the girl to put on a seductive uniform. However, this can be done with both men and women. The most common ideas include dressing like bunny girls, school girls, French maids, secretaries, robbers and cops.

Anal Pursuits – This is one of the most common sexual fetishes. Anal sex is relished by both men and women. However, many heterosexual men don’t like talking about it because of the concern associated with their manliness. There are a lot more nerve endings in the rectum. Thus, it is believed to produce more sexual climax for both men and women. Many men and women also use butt plugs during anal intercourse to increase the level of physical pleasure.

Vinyl, Leather and Latex – Using vinyl, leather and latex in sexual activities can be clearly regarded as a perfect alternative to role play. This is because men and women wear clothes made of these products and get involved in sex while wearing them. Clothes made from these materials are very fitting. As a result, they are able to create a much greater bondage and physical elation products like floggers, BDSM collars, handcuffs and blindfolds. These are used on a frequent basis.

Threesome and Foursome – Sex with two women at the same time is one of the most common sexual fetishes of men. Some men and women even look for other couples with the same ideology and get involved in a foursome or group sex. This can be rejuvenating for a relationship which has been passing through a phase of boring and monotonous sex. It can add some spice to your sex life and reignite the spark.

Most people call this swinging. In the last few years, swinging has been quite popular in almost every part of the world. People have understood its various benefits and the kind of love it reignites between couples.


Swinger Wife: Wife Sharing From A Woman’s Perspective

Swinger Wife: Wife Sharing

How does a wife feel in the swinging lifestyle? How does she feel knowing that her husband is voluntarily sharing her life with another man for sexual purposes? Do you love your man or do you feel more in love with him if you are part of the swinging lifestyle? If you are interested in a swinging lifestyle, these are probably the questions that are running through your mind. These questions are common, so this article explores what it feels like to be a swinger’s wife during everyday life and swinging.

 During Everyday Life

There is a particular secret that a swinger wife and her husband share. It adds passion and intimacy to their relationship in their sexual life.

Intimacy comes from knowing that they can engage in a swinging lifestyle, but stay together on an emotional and physical level that no one else has yet. It is great to know that your husband is ready to explore your sexual fantasies without making you angry, jealous, or understanding, and it also builds trust and respect for your husband on a regular basis. In fact, a swinger wife has more trust in her husband than most wives because she knows what’s going on.

The openness of the relationship also enhances intimacy. Many women keep secrets on what they really want in their marriage, on an emotional and physical level. A swinger’s wife should not be afraid to tell her husband what she thinks or wants, because she knows he is ready to make her happy, which does not do her justice, and she has someone to do with her. . Swingers enjoy this open trust, communication and honesty that most couples will never do.

The hobby comes from sexual satisfaction and being comfortable. Not only does a wife fulfill her fantasies outside the wedding, she shares those fantasies with her husband. If you haven’t tried it, trust me, this is a big turning point in both marriage and wife.

During The Swing

It can be very tempting for your husband to have sex with other women, at the end of the day knowing that he is with you in order to go home and grow old. It reminds you of the value he has in your life and the person he is. In fact, any swinger’s wife will tell you that her husband is constantly sexy with her because he is constantly reminded of his masculinity. This is contrary to normal marriages, where a husband may be less than a man to his wife and more bored.

And to experience true femininity while swinging, if other men or women want to embrace your body, you will feel like a real feminine goddess. You are reminded that you are a powerful, sexual creature, he is sought not only by your husband but also by other people, and your sensual side is constantly exposed to the world. It boosts self-confidence both in the bedroom and outside the bedroom.

Also, you can lead a difficult life by embracing your true femininity. This allows you to be a vulnerable woman, at this time when you are considered harsh and prominent to prove your worthiness to the world. There is no better way to feel your natural femininity than because you are appreciated by others.

Things To Think About

If you are interested in becoming a swinging wife, congratulations! You are on your way to being satisfied with your marriage and your sex life. However, there are a few things you need to think about before jumping into the swinging lifestyle.

First, Swinger’s wife is no different from a normal wife when it comes to marriage needs. He needs communication in the marriage to satisfy the arrangement, otherwise doubt and jealousy can quickly destroy the whole thing. Therefore, you and your husband need to hone your communication skills before embarking on this lifestyle. Consistent communication and honesty are key to making a living and being happy with your spouse. Above all, you have to trust each other.

Second, there are rules that you and your spouse create and follow. These rules are a guide to help you get comfortable with yourself while swinging. Your husband is comfortable to honor and vice versa. If you don’t follow the rules early, credibility issues can occur and you may not be able to push your comfort zone later; Therefore, there is no provision for ‘just one time’ as the regulations come into force for a reason.

Finally, wife sharing is a sexy and informative thing for a wife. It helps to build a strong marriage, meet sexual needs and boost self-esteem and authenticity.


Swinging Couples: What You Need To Know About Them

Swinging Couples

In an American culture, as in most cultures, the term swinging couple applies to partners who engage in sexual activity with other people outside of their marriage or relationship. The subject of swings is considered taboo for the general public. However, there is more to the swing than you learn from common sense. This article focuses on some things you need to know about swingers and swinger couplings.

Many people think that swinging couples come from the bizarre side of society. However, this is unrealistic. Studies show that swinger pairs occur in all walks of life. Some swinger couples come from the middle to upper class, some have higher education, some have a white collar job and all come from all sides for political affiliation. Although swingers come from all walks of life, there is one common element that binds them – they enjoy engaging in sexual activity with multiple partners with the consent of their spouse.

What most people think, swinger couples are simple humans who choose to explore their sexuality differently.

He is not a mentally disturbed person. In addition, a Swinger Meet and Greet or Party is held and Ground Rules are placed on the front of the hand. The couple joins other sites dedicated to swings, which are dedicated exclusively to a swinger party such as Swing Lifestyle.com. The swinger party can be a trisome, square or orgy. It all depends on whether or not everyone in the party agrees and most importantly you and your partner agree.

Most lifestyle couples, despite having a normal lifestyle, keep their lifestyle a secret. This makes sense when ordinary people meet this idea and think that people who “swing” are mentally ill. For this reason, swingers initially meet other swingers using the Internet to hide their identity.

One of the most frequently asked questions when it comes to swinging is, why is it? Although the answers vary from one person to another, many say it is because it is exciting and meant for exploration. A few other reasons are independence and relationship-revivalism. There are so many benefits to living. Most swingers will tell you that swinging increases their combat satisfaction. Contrary to what people think, swinging is related to twin stones.

Another advantage of a swinging couple is the communication ability they share. This is not surprising as there are a set of lifestyle challenges that are best addressed through strong communication between partners.

Some people think that all swingers are overweight and ugly. This is a common misconception. As mentioned earlier, swinger pairs come in the form of young and old, fat and thin and rich and poor.

What other people think about STDs and swinging, the truth is, there is no threat to the sexually active singles of the swinging couple. Studies show that the risk of STDs for a swinger pair is on par with the general public. Some swingers argue this is low because they are open to explaining the importance of safe sex and that they choose their partners over single people.

Swinging is not considered fraud. Swinger pairs are not more honest than the rest of the average doubles. In fact, they may be more honest. It is not cheating to have sex with other people; It is cheating to have sex with other people without your partner knowing. Swinger couples agree that their partners engage in sexual activity with other people.

Divorce spouses do not marry. In fact, most swinger couples have strong relationships and successful people excel in the art of communication and honesty. For this reason, lifestyle is not for everyone. Some couples try to be a swinger couple as a last resort to save a failed marriage, which is not fair; And this idea fails more than it succeeds.

Another common misconception of the Swinger couple is that they are all drug addicts. This is not true. The percentage of swinger joints used in the drug is with the public.


There are so many misunderstandings with the swing couple and the swivel lifestyle. However, the truth is that swinging couples are completely normal people from all walks of life. These individuals want to express and explore their sexuality in their own way and by choosing consent with all parties.


Benefits Of An Orgasm: Are Swinging Couples Healthier?

Benefits Of An Orgasm

Orgasm is directly related to the happy mood and emotional strength of sexual partners. These two factors are more common in swinging joints because they are controlled by factors that are different from each other. Flexibility, creative ability, adaptability to uncertainty and uncertain thinking are some of the factors that control a person’s mood and metallic health. When you compare the sex life of swinging couples and monogamous couples based on these factors, you will find that swingers are more flexible in their sexual relationships than monogamous couples. But before discussing the level of orgasm by both types of couples, you should be aware of these benefits for your knowledge.

Orgasm is considered one of the most essential activities in any person’s life. You need to excite yourself at least once a week. The rationale behind this idea is that sexual health educators consider good medicine for anyone, whether alone or with a partner. Orgasm provides you with a variety of health benefits once a week:

The risk of Heart Disease is reduced to more than 35% in those with recurrent orgasm. Your sexual activity not only increases your heart rate but it also helps balance your testosterone and estrogen levels, which reduces the risk of heart problems. Fewer people, with active sex lives, die of heart attacks.

Once a week, the person’s immunity increases. Antibody levels increase in their bodies to protect them from viruses, microbes and other harmful intruders.

Repeated sexual intercourse can control the effects of many forms of chronic pain. Chronic vaginal stimulation has been found to cause chronic back and leg pain. Structural cramps, headache, and arthritis pain relieve Most women experience genital arousal.

Sexual intercourse increases a person’s libido at least once a week, which also improves his or her sex life. Repeated sex can also improve blood flow and elasticity in women’s sexual organs. All these things give them a better sexual experience.

Sexual intercourse once a week reduces the risk of hypertension. Various research has proven that intercourse can reduce the risk of hypertension.

Reduces the risk of prostate cancer. It has been scientifically proven that men who have sex frequently have a lower risk of prostate cancer than others.

Often, stress can be significantly reduced with orgasm. Brain chemical is released during sexual stimulation, which helps restore your reward system and brain pleasure.

Once you release a hormone called prolactin through your orgasm, you will enjoy better sleep. It helps you to sleep and relax after orgasm.

If you consider swinging couples and single couples in the context of enjoying these emotions, you will find that the simple attitude of those who are happy with their sex life is that they enjoy these benefits more than monogamous couples. Is. Swingers are not only physically but also mentally strong, which allows them to enjoy their sex life better than single people. They enjoy all aspects of happiness and mental capacity, including creative ability, adaptation to changing circumstances, flexible and vague thinking. Swinging couples enjoy sex and sex more openly than monogamous couples.

Single people are usually strict about their sex life and for this reason they cannot enjoy sexual contact with themselves or their partner. They are usually caught in toxic jealousy because their fears about particular gestures or behavior may end their relationship. Many of these couples believe that after marriage, the day of sexual bliss sets them apart and settled with their spouses. So, monogamous couples cannot reap the benefits of swinging couples as freely as they can.

Therefore, swinging couples can enjoy orgasm more effectively than monogamous couples because their approach to their sex life is very different from that of the latter.


For Men And Women: How To Last Longer In Bed

Men And Women Last Longer In Bed For Sex

It was embarrassing to him and it wasn’t fun for him when it ended too soon. Premature ejaculation is one of the main sex killers in couples, especially those in a long-term relationship. For men, it is important to know that she will not tolerate long-term dissatisfaction, and women should know that there are techniques they can use to ensure that their partner does not ejaculate too quickly. . The following tips for long-term sex can help you stay sparkly in bed for a long time.

  1. Study Kamasutra

Kamasutra is a comprehensive guide to sexual activities, practices and techniques that help delay ejaculation. This book talks about long-term training through effective methods and techniques. If your sex life is a victim of premature ejaculation, lust is your life. According to a technique outlined in the book, when a person thinks he is coming, he is advised to stop inside his partner and hold on until he regains control. .

  1. Get Out of Your Head

Factors such as stress and anxiety can actually negatively impact your performance in bed. Sex is about managing erectile dysfunction and connecting emotionally. When your mind is only focused on erectile dysfunction and ejaculation, you may not have the connection you can have with your partner for long.

Men should focus more on their confident inner voice, not on the anxious tone. When you start to feel anxious, the strategy is to stop, take a deep breath, and focus on how things feel on your body. Stay away from your head and focus on the body.

  1. Change Things Up

What to do when you start getting closer to the edge? In this scenario, some teasing will keep you out longer. Both partners can start searching for each other’s naughty ends and get annoyed until they want to get up with it.

There are lots of nerve endings in the vagina and rubbing the head of the penis between the labia can spread things out. Make sure you do this in a sensual way to make the action more enjoyable. Women can play with their heap to emphasize what they are playing.

  1. Slow Down!

Most men prefer a sharp, jack hammer style. This not only increases the risk of premature ejaculation but also spoils the fun. Slow sex is a great way to enhance the experience and have amazingly long sex. There is also a more connected experience and the flames continue to burn until the climax. Slow sex is more erotic because you are exploring the rest of her body.

Kiss her neck and gently mark her private end and sniff her ears. Women can kiss on his neck, whisper a few dirty words in his ear, or rub his pelvis with his soft hands. All of these actions stimulate emotion and provide a good basis for both partners to enjoy a lasting, pleasant romance.

  1. Try A Variety of Exercises

Exercising the PC muscles is one of the best ways to stay in bed longer. These muscles pull from your anus to the ureter. All you have to do is squeeze them for about 2-3 minutes every day. To find out how they work, try to stop your urine flow while squeezing for PC muscle in the middle of the urethra.

Three sets of 15 repetitions per day should work wonderfully for you. Between the act of squeezing those muscles, the penis produces better blood flow, leading to better control and confidence.

  1. Squeeze Technique

This is completely different from the exercise of PC muscle, but it is very effective for lasting porn. Men should explore the “squeeze technique”. Clearly, there are three sensitive areas of the penis where pressure or squeezing can help maintain a good erection.

To start, draw a tight ring with your thumb and index finger around the base of the shaft. It helps man to maintain good blood flow to the penis. The second trick is to put pressure on the man’s hot spot, which is below the head. Finally, pressure on the spots between the anus and the base of the testicle or perineum can also perpetuate most of the ejaculation flow.

There are also all natural supplements you can take to help in the long run, such as Stamyzine for Men and Libidra for Women, which increase a woman’s libido.


Cover Art Revealed For New Guide To Wicked Sex

Cover Art Revealed For New Guide To Wicked Sex

Wicked Pictures announced today, Monday, September 8th, the reveal of new cover art for jessica drake’s Guide to Wicked Sex: The Art of Stiptease. The latest in a series of guides from the AVN award-winning Drake comes out September 10th, and features Alison Tyler on the cover. (Wicked Pictures)

The guide is a first as it features nudity only and falls under a soft-core category. “‘Guide to Wicked Sex’ is a celebration of all aspects of sexuality, which is why I’m proud to announce the first nudity-only volume in the educational series,” states jessica drake. “Sex is more than penetration – it’s the seduction and eroticism leading up. In ‘The Art of Striptease,’ we aim to educate viewers on a popular form of seduction anyone can use to heat things up in the bedroom.”

The instructional video teaches what to wear, how to reveal, being confident, walking seductively, how to give a lap dance, and even pole dancing techniques. It’s not just a guide for women on how to please their man, but how to please themselves by feeling good and sexy, raising self-esteem through self-discovery. The video features such stars of the adult industry as Alison Tyler, Beverly Lynn, and Sarah Shevon.

Wicked Pictures president and founder, Steve Orenstein, said “It’s sexy, educational, and above all very entertaining – a must for those who want to learn the art of striptease from some of the best.”

An idea born in 2012, jessica drake’s guide to Wicked Sex series has been one of the most successful instructional guides to sex and sexuality to date. She travels often, and is in high demand for speaking engagements. Her message includes improving and maintaining healthy sexual relations through loving and supportive relationships


Masturbation: What Your Self-Pleasure Style Says About Your Personality

Feel Self-Pleasure Style

It’s the weekend and you have big plans. It involves candles, wine, a bath, soft music and self-indulgence with a toy named Anton. Are you the “master of your domain/queen of the castle, or do you regularly enjoy moments of masturbation whenever the urge strikes? Refinery 29 has outlined nine styles of self-pleasure; what does your masturbation technique say about you?

According to Women’s Health Magazine most women have admitted to masturbating at least once a week. Masturbation is a healthy form of sexual expression as long as it doesn’t prevent sex with a partner or is performed in public. Some experts suggest masturbation can “improve overall sexual health, general health and relationships.” So what does your self-pleasure style say about your personality or vice versa?

Refinery 29 compiled a personality/masturbation guide based upon information gathered through an author/founder of a popular online sex shop, and a sexologist. The nine styles are suggestive of one’s personality, or indicate what masturbation technique works best for your disposition. But, Refinery 29 warns not to take the list too seriously, it is just catalogue of unique ways to enjoy the moment alone and release tension.

“The Shameless Self-Pleasurer” leaves the door open and doesn’t the close blinds in the hopes of getting caught. Maybe someone will fulfill a fantasy, maybe they like to be watched, but the Shameless Self-Pleasurer isn’t necessarily an exhibitionist. Rather this masturbation style personifies someone that is extremely self-confident.

“The Under Cover Lover” is just the opposite of the above, often afraid to get caught. She plays the violin under the covers, sometimes on her belly, and is classified as slightly submissive, perhaps with a tad of masturbation guilt spilling over from childhood.

“All In” masturbators know what they like and where to find it. Whether that spot is a little to the left, or not, knowing what works makes for one hot lover.

Does your “Battery Powered Partner” have a name? Experts seem to think the “energy and electricity” from a vibrator “acts as a stand-in” for an actual person. And some women cannot leave home without it.

“The Weekend Warrior” is too busy during the week for moments of self-love, but makes up for it on the weekend, sometimes hours on end. The Weekend Warrior won’t settle for one orgasm, similar to the rest of her weekly decisions, only the best for this pleasure seeker.

“The Romancer” is going to give herself a night to remember and take all of the credit. The Romancer will seduce herself, and have no one to blame if the night doesn’t go right.

“Just the Fingertip” is probably the most popular because stimulation of the clitoris is the fastest way to orgasm. She likes to keep it simple.

“The Quick and Dirty” self lover is her own “wham, bam, thank you ma’am.” This is the person who masturbates to release stress, or to unload the gun before a hot date.

“The Solo Novice” is the woman without a masturbation style or someone that truly is the “master of their domain,” but not because they have impeccable self-control. The Solo Novice could be that person who has never experienced self-love because they’ve been told it is “dirty and bad.” The experts suggest to learn to masturbate in the shower, because it signifies “cleanliness,” which is a positive way to play.


Pretty Polish Helps Prevent Sexual Assaults

Pretty Polish Helps Prevent Sexual Assaults

Social media has been creating a lot of buzz about an innovative nail polish that would help to protect a potential victim from an assault. Created by four male students from North Carolina University, this nail polish is designed to change color when it comes in direct contact with several of the common drugs intended to temporarily incapacitate a potential victim.

According to the article, once the intended victim places their finger inside of the drink the polish will change colors helping to detect the colorless, odorless drug known as the “date rape drug” or “roofie.” The goal of this life saving polish is to make the prowling perpetrator “fear the repercussions of being caught slipping a drug into someone’s drink,” thus ultimately creating a shift in fear from the victim to the perpetrator.

While this anti-rape polish has garnered a lot of support, there are many sexual assault prevention advocates that believe that innovations like this are misguided, can lead to victim blaming and may not necessarily be the best way to approach the sexual assault epidemic on college campuses.

I am incline to agree that a pretty polish, alone, cannot prevent a sexual assault, however I do believe that it is another tool that can prove to be very useful. In order to see a real reduction in sexual violence on college campuses, we need to change how sexuality is viewed in our culture. And this change MUST involve EVERYONE!

We need to create comprehensive programs that incorporate: 1) informed consent education and by-stander interventions, 2) addresses sexism, genderism, culture, self-esteem, self-efficacy, and healthy relationships, 3) identifies social determinants that contribute to risks, 4) identifies triggers, strength factors and protective factors, 5) incorporates survivor support and perpetrator interventions that reduce the likelihood of recidivism, and 6) teaches accountability and responsibility.

We also must address polices that serve as barriers and help to further stigmatize and institutionalized survivors. In order for politics to effectively impact sexual violence, it must become a priority! Such policies must consider addressing social determinants, focus on navigating structural barriers, take into account the impact of culture, sexual orientation, gender, disabilities, religion, economic and other social inequalities, and increase access to services for survivors and perpetrators.

Men must become involved! We need men to become allies in advocating for change. We must focus on redefining how masculinity is defined and viewed in society. We must also address the culture of male dominated athletics and organizations where overt sexual behaviors with undertones of sexual violence have been permissive and even accepted. In addition, we must create an environment that makes it safer and acceptable for men to come forward as survivors.

While, this is not intended to be an exhaustive list it is certainly a starting point to creating a culture that reduces sexual violence.